I disagree with the author’s statement ‘Like it or not, it’s our parents, not our friends, who have the biggest impact on who we are as teens and who we become as adults.’. I believe that it is our friends that influenced us to becoming what we are now.
The amount of time we spent in school with our friends is considerably more compared to staying at home and spending time with our parents. The time spent with our friends affect us as we want to be inclusive within a certain group. This group of friends that we have would have diverse backgrounds and the influence they bring with them is inevitable. Hanging in groups will also cause peer pressure and this will be what will form and mould us into what will be our future self. The assumption that after our parents “modeled” for us, we would continue being that way until adulthood is invalid. Even though the “seed” of morale might have already be planted, it can still change if introduced to other influences.
The friends we have are close to our age group and thus teens would know each other better then with our parents. Between us and our parents, there is a generation gap and this might pose a problem as the problems our parents faced then might be different with what the child is experiencing now. This would ultimately let the child feel closer to their friends as they feel that these people can understand them better than their parents. Earlier on, I stated that change is possible during the “maturing years”. Other parents might not have “modeled” for their child better and would result of a child that is unsociable and uncertain. However, if they have the right friends, they can change for the better.
Friends spend much time with us. They eat, study and play with us during our maturing period and would most probably influence us, either for the better or worse.