Question: What are your thoughts and feelings about being depression, loneliness, heartbreaks, being different from your peers, and having to put up a front? How do/would you deal with some of these issues.
I feel that depression, loneliness, heartbreaks, being different from your peers, and having to put up a front is very common nowadays especially with younger teens and teenagers nowadays. I also feel that one of the reasons this is getting more common around teens nowadays is technology. With the advancement of technology nowadays, it is easier for the people to find out about things that causes these negative feelings. Example, facebook causes news to get around at a really fast rate. Therefore, things like secrets and everything get around really fast which causes the victim to feel depressed and be isolated from everyone else.
However, I also feel that if a person aged between 9 and 17 is feelings heartbreaks, there is definitely something wrong. People in this age group are too young to be in relationships and to wear makeup to feel pretty and to fit in. People in this age group should concentrate on their studies to go into good universities and have a good future rather than concentrating on these unnecessary relationships and causing heartbreaks, which distracts them from the studies and affect their future, not only academically, but also socially. These people who belong in this age group might be too heartbroken after a break-up, and might not be too scared to try to love again in the future, which leaves them lonely. I feel that people of the ages 18 and above might be a suitable age for getting into BGR relationships as they might be already mature and are able to cope in the future when they experience heartbreaks.
I feel that people who put up a front just to fit in and not let people worry about them are people who are self-conscious. They should be more open and try to overcome their self-consciousness and try to be themselves. Real friends and family will accept them for who they are and not accept them because of their looks, height, weight, etc. As long as their character is good and they are decent people, they will be accepted for who they are. People with good character but not that good looking are much better than people who look extremely good looking but with absolutely bad attitude.
Overall, people should just learn how to accept themselves for others to accept them. They should face the music and instead of hiding from it forever.
For me, if I were to encounter any of these unfortunate incidents and feelings, I would consult an adult or a counsellor to help me overcome these problems. I would learn how to accept myself for who I am, and if my friends cannot do the same, I would be better off without them. I would find friends who would accept me, and not judge me in anyway. Those are true friends.