Monday, July 4, 2011

Extensive Reading Chapter 1 - Lee YuChong

What are your thoughts and feelings about being depression, loneliness, heartbreaks, being different from your peers, and having to put up a front? How do/would you deal with some of these issues.

I feel that all of these negativity about thoughts and feelings can be avoided easily. Even though I have not really experienced such feelings before, I find that many people have been giving themselves unnecessary negative feelings by thinking in a certain way. For example, some people are just sad and yet, everywhere, whether online or offline, they call it "depressed". If there is a sadness scale or some sort, depression is at the far end of the scale and is something I find that even counselors need help in trying to solve. It is the same thing with suicide. Those who jump off buildings have a tendency not to tell anyone and behave normally in front of others, before committing suicide the next day. Whereas, those who openly declare that they are so stressed and "depressed" are just people who exaggerate and of course, are never at that stage. Depressed has become a term in which its severity is underestimated.

I feel that the reason why people are feeling depressed, lonely, being different or having heartbreaks is mainly due to societal pressure that causes people to snap. For example, being different from peers is something that cannot be decided by the person himself, since the person was born a certain way. I for one believe that others should accept the people around them for who they are, regardless of sexual orientation, whether gay straight or bi, or for their personality. Discriminating against these people will only lead to them feeling sad, which leads to real depression.

All in all, it is all about accepting the people around you for who they are, not who you want them to be. Even if you do not like someone's personality, treating the person badly is no way to understand the person, and when no one takes the step, someone is going to snap.

For me, even though I strongly believe a person should not change just for a group of people, I long realised the concept of societal demands. Either you change your ways to be more polite or courteous, if not, you will lose out. Society does not change for us, we change for the greater good of society. Sure, it may be putting up a front and hiding your true self, but what I normally do to deal with this sort of stress is letting my hair down whenever I do not meet society face to face, and instead meet people who do not mind the other side of me.

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