Thursday, June 30, 2011

Extensive Reading (Chapter 1) - Chio Jia Le (9)

Question: What are your thoughts and feelings about depression, loneliness, heartbreaks, being different from your peers, and having to put up a front? How do/would you deal with some of these issues?

Personally, I think that all these feelings and thoughts, in my dictionary, are retarded. To explain my point, I would break my opinion into two parts; logical reasoning and essential identity. Firstly, lets define the terms/feelings mentioned in the question itself. I would classify depression, loneliness and heartbreaks into one group, being different from your peers and having to put up a front in another.

The first group only has a temporary effect on oneself. Let me give you a scenario: you professed to your crush of almost a year and got rejected immediately. Naturally, you will feel this tinge of sadness overwhelming you. However, how long can this effect last? It's not like you're going to live in this world of 'misery' forever. Lets move on to the next stage: you got cheated by your best friend of 6 years in terms of betrayal (backstabbing) and can never be friends again. There will be this sense of loneliness shutting you away from reality and just wanting to be alone, while at the same time wanting to be friends with that person again. These contradictory feelings will slowly drive oneself into despair and eventually lead to depression. Well, as they say, time heals everything. Therefore, this incomparable to that particular scar somewhere on your body that you've been 'friends' with for a life time.

Finally, the ultimate set back for a human being to experience is the death of your parents. Imagine you're on your way back from school, craving for that delicious meal your mother always prepared for you. Suddenly, your mobile phone rings and an unknown number appears. Something happened. Something bad really happened. And this is the point where you do not know what is the right thing to do, henceforth unable to stay calm. Once the panic button is pushed, there is no turning back. Your inner voice has taken over you and you have lost all meaning of life. But hey, think about it this way: if there's a way to make everyone happy, it's by fulfilling their wish. I'm sure any parents will want their child to lead a happy life. From then on, you'll be able to cope with this lost and find back the meaning of life.

To sum up what you've just read, time is not reservable, and never will be. Whatever happened, happened. No use crying over spilt milk. Academically speaking, if you make a mistake during a test, learn from it. The biggest regret of all is that one is unable to correct that mistake in the future, and bigger consequences surfaces. However, all these are temporary. It will fade away, definitely.

The second group refers to low self-esteem people whom they regard themselves as 'outcast'. The whole issue here boils down to one question: do you love yourself? All man are created equal, and the reason why others fall behind is because their too cautious of themselves. For example, instead of going out with friends, you stay at home trying to get rid of that one pimple that randomly popped out of nowhere. In other cases: eyebags, hair, body shape etc. Most of these problems begin with looks and slowly develop into symptoms from forceful purging and applying tonnes of make up to buying the most expensive cosmetics advertised by renowned models.

What people of the current century need to know, or learn, is that NO ONE IS PERFECT. We are all born with beautiful imperfections that others love, and we need to accept it. Models with the perfect face and shape are not real. They're made up of plastic. "Respect yourself and you will be respected; Love yourself and you will be loved". This is my favourite quote as it kick starts my day the way I want it to be. A sense of identity is essential in everyone but be careful not to let it grow.

Overall, I find life to be short and wish everyone would live their lives, to the fullest (:

1 comment:

  1. Good points, organizing them into 2 parts. Have a nice conclusion. One word of advice: Try to put yourself in other peoples' shoes. The last line is a good way to end but it does not link 100% with the story.